It’s Valentines Day this week, are you a fan? I am not. I don’t like a day telling me I need to be romantic and Id probably get quite annoyed with a bouquet of overpriced red roses. Id prefer that money was spent on something I liked on a random day. I think we buy into when we are younger but wise up as we get older but maybe that’s just me…….
1st Valentines Day- One hour is spent in a card shop choosing the correct card. The hunt for the perfect card that conveys both thought and maybe humour is not easy to find. At least another hour is spent writing the message inside the card.
10th Valentines Day- You remind yourself to buy a card. You forget. You eventually remember when you see the crap selection left in the garish display in the 24hr garage when you are there to buy milk. You grab one. It has a cheesy or smutty message. You don’t realise as you dont read it. You place a cup of coffee on it home and then try and wipe it off but the imprint of the cup remains on the envelope. You scrawl your signature.
1st Valentines Day- The restaurant has been booked for 10 days. You are waxed, moisturised and primped to perfection. You have bought new, expensive, not very comfortable underwear. You worry about how your body looks in said underwear. You have no idea just how perfect your body is and what three kids will do to it.
10th Valentines Day- Does not exist. You may change your top or you may get into your pjs because its been a long day. You would’ve gone to the beauticians but every spare cent of this months disposable income has been spent in the pharmacy because its February and your kids have picked up every bug going. You consider dragging out that uncomfortable underwear that you bought ten years ago that’s in the back of the drawer but realise there is no way that bra is closing on you now……. You laugh at your 10 year ago self for being self-conscious about your body. Your body rocked 10 years ago.
1st Valentines Day- After a lot of thought and searching you have found the perfect gift for your Valentine.
10th Valentines Day- See above. All disposable income has gone to the pharmacist.
1st Valentines Day- You sit in the nice restaurant with all the other shiny, loved up, slightly awkward couples in the flickering candlelight. You sip your wine, talk and order something that wont be messy or likely to stick in your teeth. You share a dessert.
10th Valentines Day- You might make the effort to eat later and separately from the kids. You light candles, the hide the mess as well as being atmospheric. Or maybe you go out to eat. You gulp your wine, it’s a rare occasion when you are out in a restaurant that doesn’t come with a crayons on the table. You eat your food with gusto, no plastic cutlery here. You try not to snap when your beloved refuses a dessert but then eats half of yours.
1st Valentines Day – You’re back home. You put on a carefully chosen cd. The dancing is a little awkward but its part of the plan for the perfect Valentines evening so you get on with it.
10th Valentines Day- Its a special dance. There is no music. Its called getting to bed without the kids waking up. You avoid the creaky stair, you have perfected brushing your teeth making minimal sound. You pirouette in to check the kids are ok and back out of the room like a ninja.
1st Valentines Day- Its long. There is lots of eye contact. It is fine.
10th Valentines Day- It is short. It is good. A lot better than 10 years ago……..
So Valentines Day- love it or hate it?
I’ll take random romance throughout the year instead thank you.
Gift Ideas For The Man In Your Life - These were suggestions for gift ideas for Christmas but they will work for Valentines Day too.
A Bench In St Stephens Green – Real Romance……………