Its like somebody flicked a switch yesterday and autumn is here. As well as the days and days of proper sunshine and heat in Ireland another remarkable thing happened here this Summer, the age gap between my children came good.
There are 3 years and 9 months between my children. Not the smallest gap but small enough. The first year of the youngest’s life is a bit of a blur and the three and a half years since have been busy. Despite the small gap between them their individual needs were very different and I regularly felt pulled in several different directions. Then this Summer something clicked. The age gap seemed to shrink and suddenly the three of them were on the same wavelength.
The imaginary games no longer needed my referring, there wasn’t so much debate and reasoning over what movie to watch or what book to read. They have always gotten on brilliantly but this Summer they clicked. There were times when I felt almost redundant. They spoke about things over dinner I knew nothing about and laughed at their private jokes that I was not privy too. They started to sort out their own disagreements. They played and played and played.
They don’t always come into our room now in the morning when they wake, I wake up to the sound of their chatter as they lie in their beds. They call out for each other as often as they call out for me now.
I didn’t have their friends over as much this Summer as before because they were happy and content in each others company. School is only back a week but already you can see their lives drifting back off to their intertwined but individual paths. The spell weakened not broken as the weather gets cooler and their separate schools, classrooms, routines and activities take up their time. They hugged each other every morning as they left each other at their individual school gates each morning this week and asked each other genuine questions about their days when they were all home together again. This makes my heart hurt a little bit. In a good way.
Heat and the time when the age gap paid off, these are my memories of this Summer. I think my children made life long memories this Summer too. I hope they have so many more like it.